Take Steps for Safety: Digitally and Physically

Because your safety matters to God—and to those who care about you.

If you’re in an abusive relationship, you might feel like you're walking on eggshells, unsure of what tomorrow holds. You’re not alone—and you’re not without options. Creating a safety plan—both physically and digitally—can give you confidence and a feeling of control over your life.

Your Safety Matters

God cares deeply about your well-being.

Psalm 34:18 reminds us, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” 

You are not invisible to Him. Taking steps to protect yourself is not only wise—it’s a reflection of your God-given worth.

Physical Safety: Preparing for the Unexpected

These small but powerful actions can make a big difference:

• Identify a Safe Person
  Choose someone you trust who can check in with you regularly. This might be a friend, family member, or someone from a support group. You don’t have to go through this alone.
  
  
• Pack an Emergency Bag
  Keep it in a safe and accessible place, possibly with your trusted person. Include:
  
  
• Identification and important documents
  
• Medications
  
• Extra keys
  
• Cash or prepaid cards
  
• A change of clothes and personal items
  
  
• Plan an Exit Route
  Know where you would go if you had to leave quickly. Practice the route if you can, and think through different times of day and circumstances.
  
  

Digital Safety: Staying One Step Ahead

In today’s world, digital safety is just as important as physical safety. Technology can be used to monitor movements, read messages, or control communication. Taking precautions can help you communicate and search for help more safely.

• Use Private Browsing or Incognito Mode
  This helps prevent your online searches from being tracked. Also, clear your browsing history regularly.
  
  
• Change Passwords Frequently
  Use strong, unique passwords for email, banking, and social media accounts. Avoid using passwords that are familiar or could be guessed (like pet names, birthdays, or shared memories).
  
  
• Turn Off Location Sharing
  Check your phone and apps for location settings. Disable any tracking or location-sharing features—especially on apps like Find My iPhone, Google Maps, and social media.
  
  
• Use a Safe Device
  If you suspect your phone or computer is being monitored, use a friend’s phone, a library computer, or a device at a public space like a church or community center for sensitive searches or messages.
  
  

Helpful Apps for Digital Safety

There are tools designed specifically to help people in controlling situations stay safe, discreetly reach out for help, or document what they’re experiencing:

• myPlan
  This app helps you assess your relationship and create a personalized safety plan. It’s secure and password-protected, and it guides you through questions to help you clarify next steps.
  
  
• Tech Safety App (by NNEDV)
  Created by the National Network to End Domestic Violence, this app offers practical advice on privacy, digital safety, and how to spot tech-based abuse.
  
  
• Aspire News App
  Disguised as a news app, Aspire includes a hidden emergency help section with options to send pre-written messages to trusted contacts. It can also give location info if needed.
  
  
• Circle of 6
  With just two taps, you can notify a chosen circle of friends that you need help. It’s discreet and quick—ideal for unexpected situations.
  
  
• Signal
  A secure messaging app with end-to-end encryption. If you’re concerned about texts or calls being intercepted, Signal is a safer way to communicate.
  
  
• Call or text hotlines: Save numbers like the National Domestic Violence Hotline (800-799-7233) or a local help organization in a way that doesn’t raise suspicion—such as labeling them as a doctor’s office or utility company.
  
  

Important: If you’re worried about someone discovering these apps on your device, consider downloading them temporarily, using them, and then deleting them. Always prioritize what feels safest for your unique situation.

You Deserve to Feel Safe

These steps are not about rushing or frightening you—they’re about equipping you. Whether you’re still gathering strength or actively preparing to leave, having a plan can give you peace of mind and a sense of empowerment.

LWOH Safety Plans

You are not weak for needing help. You are wise for seeking it.

And most importantly:
You are worthy of safety. 

If you need help creating a personalized safety plan or want someone to talk to confidentially, we’re here for you.